I was at a business meeting and we were joined by employees from our sister company. I was called in as the lead marketer to give a talk on our ideas and where we need to progress in marketing terms. There was this hot blonde sitting in front of me. She was staring all the time at me, then on our lunch break out of no where came over and started to talk to me, all friendly and stuff, this was about for 5 minutes. Me personally, i thought the signs were all there, that there was a clear attraction and i felt the same way too. The problem is, these meetings are very random and they call up different people from our sister company so there is a chance i will never see her again. From the spurr of the moment, in silence, i gave her my contact details secretly while the main co exec was giving his talks. As i had to leave after that, i couldn’t tell her anything so i basically given her me contact details and left without saying anything. Her body language once i gave her my details got her all tense and she didn’t look at me after that. The worst thing is, i found out that i may have to see her again for another meeting. I wish i could of asked her properly but we are in a professional enviroment where you can’t talk because its a full blown, serious meeting.
I think i have 4 options
1) I don’t turn up, make some excuse that im ill.
2) see if she uses my contact details to contact me (which i am having doubts about)–also how long would a girl usually take???
3) go in as if nothing happened that day and just ignore her
4) make some excuse up that i was not meant to give her my email address.
The problem is, i am really shy with girls and it is why i kept it ananonymouss i didn’t want anyone to find out but i think she might of told her friend which i am really worried about.
p.s, sorry marie, i know i typed this question before but the question title didn’t make sense and no one answered,, so i had to delete it and re type this question again. sorry!
Thanx for your response, I think i better give you info about the girl, she seems very shy and the impression i am getting is that she is very reserved and not a loud, foward kind of girl. Thats the dilema i am having. If she was a loud girl then it would make things so much easier!
Your 5th option is to apologize to her for misreading her friendliness as interest and say you hope you can work together without further embarrassment.
Many, many relationships are formed in the same manner… a chance meeting. Not everyone picks up a mate in a bar!
No, it isn’t weird unless SHE makes it weird. It happens all the time… whether a girl is receptive or not depends entirely on her. Don’t dwell on it.
its fine, pretty normal
Or
5) Say “I’m sorry I made you nervous. I realize I made a mistake in giving you my contact number.. Please forgive me.” and walk away.
Choose option 3), but don’t ignore her. Just be as friendly as you are to everybody else. If you ignore her you will come across as being very petty. I don’t know how long it’s been, but usually if you give your contact details to someone who plans to use them they’ll be in touch pretty soon after. Don’t take it personally – she doesn’t know you personally, so it couldn’t be meant that way. Well done for having the guts to try. Many people would have let that opportunity pass them by. You at least gave it a shot.
if there was a mutual attraction between the both of you she was probably happy to get your contact info if you see her again you should try to take a minute to talk to her to see if there is any compatibility between the both of you and if there is ask her what she is doing this weekend and if she says nothing tell her you would like to take her out to dinner or to go catch a movie then dinner good luck i hope it works out for you
I’m going with a new option
Don’t bunk the meeting…just go and don’t ignore her,fust say “hi”, “how are you”
And keep it simple!